When you're already struggling, double checking every move because of your anxious mind, the LAST thing you need in your life is a negative presence. You know who I'm talking about. Someone's name comes to mind...might be a friend, a family member, or even a significant other.
It's challenging. Sometimes we struggle to recognize toxic relationships because we're caught up in the good times and focus on the positive qualities: a friend who makes you laugh, a friend who buys you drinks, or a friend to Netflix and eat pizza with you. While it can be good to focus on the positives, it is extremely important to take a step back and evaluate the relationship as a whole.
How do they contribute to your life, not just during the good times, but overall? Are they there during the rough times too? Do they build you up when you're feeling down? Are they supportive of your hopes and dreams?
Toxic people can hold you back in quite a few ways. They can keep you from building other relationships and meeting new friends. They can prevent you from being you and doing what you love. They can make your anxiety 1000 times worse. My anxious mind allows toxic voices to take over and mess with my mind. In the past a few of my toxic "friends" have guilted me into being ashamed of who I am and constantly questioning if I'm living my life wrong. That's unhealthy. If someone makes you feel like that there are SO many better people for you to find in this lovely world.
Over the past few years I've removed myself from a few toxic relationships. I'm notorious for not seeing the toxic characteristics when I'm in a relationship, but reflecting back I regret not cleansing myself from some of these individuals sooner. I've let quite a few negative people in and out of my life that brought me down, but I have learned something from every single person. I have grown and understood myself better through interacting with these toxic people. I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and the universe gives everyone in your life a purpose...even the negative ones. Maybe this individual was put in your life to give you the courage to prove to yourself that you are worthy and capable of standing up for yourself.
I encourage you to take the time to evaluate the relationships in your life, let go of those you need to, and be free. Life is short. You don't have time for people who are not going to be supportive and love you for who you are. Surround yourself with positive people and positive vibes will come your way. You are strong, capable, and your feelings are valid.