My anxiety took over. My mind felt cloudy. So much to do. I didn’t know where to start or how to jump back in. And it started to consume me. Couldn’t sleep which took away my focus which decreased my productivity. This isn’t the first time something like this has happened. I tend to beat myself up when these mental health moments (by moments I mean weeks of fogginess) happen because I feel like I’m failing my business and our community. And I know I shouldn’t. Mental health is real and it’s important. I have the privilege and opportunity to be self employment which allows me to stop and address my mental health when I need to.Read More
If we're being honest, anxiety runs my business. It's the constant checking of the e-mail in fear that I have messed something up. It's double checking & triple checking everything I send out. It's constantly checking the time, if someone is one minute late to a meeting and being convinced that I'm at the wrong place or read the wrong time.Read More
2017 was a year of a lot of laughs, a lot of cries, and a lot of learning to embrace it all. I learned so much about myself and experienced personal growth in ways I couldn't imagine a year ago. I wanted to share a few of my key experiences from 2017 in hopes that it may inspire you to embrace personal growth in 2018.Read More
I absolutely adore the holidays, don't get me wrong, but they tend to take a lot out of me. If you're like me, you've already started mentally preparing. For me, I start by thinking about the questions your family members are going to ask.Read More
Dear Optimist, Your "look on the bright side" attitude is great for you, but not for me. I need to be in this moment and acknowledge my feelings, not be ashamed of them.Read More
This morning I woke up to an inbox full of e-mails...I didn't know where to start. Todays schedule...Three meetings, two calls, and an abundance of homework due for class tomorrow.Read More
There's too many people in a confined space. People I don't know. It's loud to the point where I can't hear a word the person next to me is saying. Alone in a room full of people...cliche, but reality.Read More
Recently, I've made two lifestyle changes that have dramatically impacted my mental health in a positive way. I've been off of my anxiety meds for weeks. Typically, when I am doing well and try going off my meds, I only last 3-4 days and then I crash and burn, but this time things have been different. I've been able to stay off my meds.Read More
I'm the girl who wakes up twenty minutes before a meeting or class, throws on a bra, deodorant, brushes her teeth, and runs out the door. I'm the girl with a mind running at 1,000 miles an hour in five different directions. I literally have a sign in my living room that says, "Welcome to the Shit Show" because I'm all over the place, all the time.Read More
I was opposed to talk therapy for quite sometime because I had the wrong counselors. After crashing and burning in college, I decided it was time to try again. Finally, on the fourth counselor I found a match. All it took was a recommendation from a friend to change my life. Since I started counseling with this lovely lady, I have learned a lot about myself, my triggers, and grown as a person.Read More
"Just Breathe." We've all heard it and probably said it to someone. Maybe you tell yourself this sometimes? Quite frankly it is one of my pet peeves when I'm struggling with anxiety and somebody tells me to just breathe as if I am consciously making the choice not to breathe. Trust me, if I could "just breathe" I would. It's not always that simple.
Just Be seems to be a more effective strategy for me when dealing with anxiety. It tends to help me acknowledge my feelings and embrace the struggle. During panic attacks I tell myself that I'm going to be in this moment and that it's going to be hard, but it will be over soon.
If you are a family member or friend to someone who suffers from anxiety you can use this strategy too. Just be in the moment with the person suffering. You don't always have to say things like just breathe or it'll be okay. Typically, I prefer if you don't. Hold your loved one, hug them while they cry, and just be in the moment with them. I'm not saying the Just Be strategy works better for everyone, but if you, or someone you love, is struggling it is an approach to try.
Acknowledging our feelings can be difficult because socially we are always taught to hide them, but just be encourages us to embrace and acknowledge the struggle. Just breathe focuses on the moment being over and everything being okay, sometimes making me feel ashamed for having a moment of sadness or struggle. It's human to feel sad, hurt, and all these emotions that tend to have a negative connotation. Your feelings are valid. Your struggle is real. You are strong. Just be.
Time: 3:04 a.m. I broke my rule. I checked my phone when the baby woke up to breastfeed. Just one little peek, I swear. I got an email asking to review my subscription box on instagram. So, a good 15 minutes later looking at the account and I’m still not sure if it’s a good fit. Gaw. The kids are asleep and I should be too. Dang it. Double fail.Read More
The thought of bedtime can be scary. Not because of the monsters under the beds, but because of the monster like thoughts lurking inside my head. There are some nights I absolutely dread bedtime.Read More
As I lay in bed staring into darkness, it doesn't matter what I do I can't go to sleep. Absolutely exhausted from not sleeping the past three nights, my eyes are closing, but my mind won't shut off.Read More
When you're already struggling, double checking every move because of your anxious mind, the LAST thing you need in your life is a negative presence. You know who I'm talking about. Someone's name comes to mind...might be a friend, a family member, or even a significant other.Read More
Once again I find myself struggling. Struggling to get out of bed. Struggling with school. Just having a hard time.
As I've said before school is a trigger for me. Right now is a difficult time with finals around the corner.Read More
Once again I am struggling to fall asleep. I have to be up in less than eight hours. All I can think about is how tired and unproductive I am going to be. I feel as though I should be using this time to do something productive.Read More